Yes this is about that stupid Belle video and I’m sure no one wants my hot take but like, it would be great if gay people would stop promoting harmful gay and trans stereotypes. I’m of course personally upset about the butch stuff, and I see it in a lot of ~queer made media~, butches and masc-coded lesbians often get portrayed not just as predatory, but unable to understand a woman is uninterested or straight. It’s super hurtful to me, especially because when I was just coming out I got a lot of irl-friends telling me any time I thought someone liked me, I was reading into the wrong things. And it hurts more when it’s from gay people, especially because I see a lot of “the creator is gay/bi/queer they can’t be offensive!” And that’s not true! I think there’s a level at which we can poke fun at each other, but there’s also a level where we’re pushing each other’s heads under the water to try and keep ourselves afloat, and that should be considered and examined.
Tag: homophobia cw
It’s been like twelve hours and I’m still sad about seeing someone I was friends with from elementary through high school say on fb that gays are bad for kids
I wasn’t going to make any sort of post today, because there are so many voices already, but I realize there’s one thing I do want to say:
To all my followers, and anyone else who may see this, I know there is so much grief today, I know so much of the discussion happening only adds to the pain of the actual attack, and I know these things all can take a toll on mental health. So if you’re struggling with certain impulses, like I am, take this as a sign to not give in. I love you and we can get through this ❤
Is there a “shit parents say to their lgbtq kids” bingo? because I’m sure i hit some new squares tonight
my new favorite hobby is find angry heterosexuals on the steven universe wiki that are trying their hardest to make pearl straight
Omfg
Holy hell, how can anyone reach that hard without pulling a muscle?
This isn’t that different from what all the lovely people in this fandom have been saying, but all this has made me want to formulate some of my own feelings/my own story.
I’m luckier than a lot of people in that growing up my family wasn’t very religious or outwardly homophobic. (My mom tried to raise my sister and I Catholic, but I was allowed to drop CCD when they tried teaching us how gross and sinful being gay was.) But there were still a HUGE amount of things, both from within my family and outside it, that led me to not realize I’m a lesbian for 21 years. And when I did start realizing I liked girls, there were so many ways I was told it was okay, I was probably still straight. Every girl is a little bi. There’s always that one exception. Boys think it’s hot if you’re open to being with another girl. You can’t really know until you have sex. You just haven’t met the right guy. And I internalized the fuck out of that shit.
In highschool, I had one “exception,” so I called myself straight, because just one didn’t mean anything, right? (And there was no way I was going to look at myself hard enough to see how very differently I felt about her compared to the boys I dated)
When I got to college, things felt more open and I started having a lot more “exceptions,” so I went with “mostly straight.” I had a boyfriend, after all. And then I went withbi.
And then last year, I started to realize that besides my boyfriend, there weren’t any boys I liked at all. And when he broke up with me, I felt almost relieved.
I still called myself bi for awhile, but then as I started to come out more and more to people, it didn’t feel right. I confessed to one friend that I didn’t think I liked boys.
She was the first one to really vocalize the possibility that I was gay, and once I labeled myself a lesbian there’s hardly been a day that went by she didn’t reference it, in jokes or talking about romance or just whatever.
And THAT, more than anything else, has helped me be comfortable with who I am. Having someone call me a lesbian, constantly affirming that that identity was real and valid and ME. And calling characters the lesbians (or the bi girls, the queer girls, whatever the case may be) helps with that too. It’s all just validation that we exist and out feelings exist, and a lot of us really really need that.
Okay I could have an awesome day because my professor made the final exam optional or I could be really upset because he made some borderline homophobic arguments, including that maybe it’s not really prejudice if someone thinks gay people shouldn’t have rights because of their religion.
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