veryimposing:

thegestianpoet:

here’s the thing, right, about “love is love”: not all people who are victimized for being members of the lgbt community are in love, concerned with being love, or have the option to be in love. “love” is a marketable, palatable concept. there are folks whose gender or the way they present themselves prevent them from ever even having a conversation about “love” before straight people turn on them, there are LGBT folks who aren’t concerned with love and want sex or community or companionship or radical activism and all of those things are much less attractive to straight people than “love.” i am so supportive when people who are actually members of the LGBT community talk about love but i’m sick of straight people trying to trim off the parts of our community which they feel are messy and ugly and difficult to grasp

Straight cis people get mad when we make the whole “being lgbt” thing a larger part of our identity than they can stomach. It’s the “wearing it on our sleeve” thing; if we don’t talk about anything but our romantic relationships it’s easy for them to pretend we’re just like them! Normal! Wanting exclusivity and catered resources sours them on us because then they have to dedicate time to re-learning what it means to not be homophobic or transphobic. Anyway I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone put this into words this well before thanks