so my dad is visiting today and arriving any minute and i’m simultaneously nervous that this will be the first time any of my family has seen me since I went full butch (last time he saw me was like august, and i was on my way but still mostly wearing girl clothes) and feeling pressure to be AS BUTCH AS POSSIBLE lest he not notice

i was gonna be casual in my favorite legend of zelda t shirt but have switched to a button down for the full butch effect

(my dad is, at least, weirdly the person in my family who handles the gay and gender stuff best?? he’s mostly peak white straight cis male but he tries. I mean my mom is my mom and I just found out my sister is a transphobic asshole (I told her I’ve settled on being a woman and that was all she needed to tell me how she really feels about the other options) (also got a bit of the ~why do you need labels~ shit re:butch lesbian), so. Not a high bar but still. (he’s also the family member it’s easy to argue with on shit, like he has his prejudices but I can be like You Are Wrong and he doesn’t always come around but he doesn’t take it as a personal attack so it’s easier to make some progress)