me: i keep having thoughts/feelings about gender and I don’t want to deal with anywhere that could lead

friend: that’s why i don’t label or categorize myself

me: …that is. that is not the issue here.

((Not labeling myself would be admitting I might fit my assigned label and I’m just coming out as gay or whatever I feel like that’s queer enough right now. But my brain won’t let it go. And I thought talking about it with my safest friend would help but. Clearly not.))